My snowy stay-cation is over, and now it's back to work. While I had 8 days off, now I will work 7 days straight. It evens out, but for some reason it doesn't seem fair...
In honor of going back to work:
SOUL II SOUL | Back to Life
Back to life, back to reality Back to the here and now yeah Show me how, decide what you want from me Tell me may be I could be there for you However do you want me, However do you need me How, however do you want me, However do you need me.
I am going to make a long story really short: The baby has an ear infection and mommy broke the syringe we need to give him the antibiotics. I will need to make a trip out into the snow in order to get a new syringe from the pharmacy, so I might as well stop by target and get the new Sade album. It dropped today!!! I wonder if Target has it? They might not have gotten their shipment because of the blizzard. I will call first. Pressed? YES!!! Maybe I'll just download it from iTunes. Either way, I am going to get it because if Solider of Love is any indication, I know the rest of the album is H-O-T hot...
Ladies, what would 2008 have been like, without Beyonce's "Get Me Bodied" and "Put a Ring on It?" Did you jump up and scream, "that's my song!" whenever the DJ started mixing Beyonce into the flow? How many times did you drop your drink or take it to the head, just so you could be on the dance floor witcha girlz when one of these songs came on? Admit it, more times than you can count if you like being out and about on a Friday or Saturday night.
Beyonce is a performer, and undoubtedly a future icon of our generation. During my lifetime, I can remember singing and trying to imitate the dance moves of several female entertainers. There was Tina Turner, Salt-n-Pepa, Janet Jackson, Mary J. Blige and now Beyonce. What do all these women have in common? A survival story and passion. With every new song, their success and sexiness drew a new line in the sand.
This morning as I drove into work. I thought about Beyonce's latest hit, Put a Ring on It. First I thought, this girl is working her thang....She's married, and still preaching to single ladies. Like myself, she draws on her life experiences to spread the word about the single lifestyle. She has a message that many people take for granted or simply overlook. The single woman, though walking our streets in droves, is ignored. (See 70% of African-American Women are Single.) So I hope Beyonce continues to dance and pump out songs that bring us to the dance floor.
Then I thought about the men who shoulda put a ring on my finger. This would include the men who respected me, their mothers, and themselves. The men with jobs and without criminal backgrounds. The men who thought enough about their future to avoid 4 children and 4 baby-mommas. The men who would never lay a hand on me or put my life in danger.
If you keep it real, any man out here can "wife" you. But can he take care of you? Most of us should be happy that an ex-boyfriend didn't put a ring on our finger. During my twisted and misled dating history, there was only one man who met the criteria listed above and didn't put a ring on my finger. The timing wasn't right. I had not come into my own; he was ready and I wasn't. In retrospect, I see that I needed at least another 7 to 8 years of spiritual development and personal maturation. Had I gotten married in the late 1990s, I may have avoided several "no-good" ex-boyfriends and a lot of heartache, but I would have also missed the life-changing lessons that God intended for my life.
All I'm saying is--just because he's your boyfriend, don't think he needs to be your husband. And just because you can look back and fantasize on a few of the good times with some joka, doesn't mean he would have profoundly changed your life for the better. Set some standards, inform the next man and wait to see if he meets them. If you never listen to anything I say, please heed these three words: DO NOT SETTLE! It will make all the difference as to whether you live a life that is happy and prosperous or not....
